Have you ever stopped to think about where our thoughts come from?
It’s kind of a mind trip isn’t it? Thinking about your thoughts?
But much of how we feel is a result of the thoughts going through our head.
So it stands to reason that maybe we should spend some time thinking about where those thoughts are coming from.
When you take some time to really dive deep into this, you’ll find that most – if not all – of our thoughts actually come in the form of questions. This leads to our brain then trying to answer those questions based on a combination of past experiences and future assumptions.
Sometimes this is done in milliseconds and unconsciously – “What happens if I put my hand on the hot stove?”
Other times it’s a more lengthy, conscious process – “What should I have for dinner tonight?”
This is also the process of how we form beliefs. In the case of the first question, we have a pretty solid belief that if when we touch a hot stove element it’s going to hurt. So, we don’t do it.
But what happens when the questions we’re asking ourselves become more disempowering?
- “Why am I such a loser?”
- “Why can’t I find love?””Why do I always fail?”
- “Why do I even bother….?”
- “Why doesn’t he/she love me anymore?”
- “Why can’t I lose weight?”
Where do you think those questions will lead us?
Unfortunately, those are the kinds of questions most people ask themselves every day. Sometimes over and over again throughout the day. It becomes a thought pattern.
When we ask those kinds of questions, our brain is going to try to come up with answer to validate that question, flooding you with examples of why you’re a loser, can’t find love, always fail etc.
This is how limiting beliefs are created in our mind and a big reason why people end up struggling and unhappy.
But what happens if we change the questions we’re asking ourselves?
What if instead we asked ourselves…
✅ “What kind of person would I have to be in order to attract love into my life?”
✅ “How could I rebuild my business into something even better and more impactful?”
✅ “What does success look like to me?”
✅ “What are the healthy behaviours I can control right now?”
✅ “What 3 things am I grateful for right now?”
✅ “What’s something I love about my partner?”
What kind of answers do you think your brain would come up with if those were the questions?
Do you think you’d come up with more empowering answers that might lead you down a better thought path?
If you’re unhappy with an area of your life or want something to change, the best way to get better answers is to ask better questions.
Let’s start asking ourselves some better questions today.